Hopefully you've learned what can happen when you mix alcohol with higher doses of certain medications, and hopefully you'll take steps to prevent things like this from happening in the future. Believe it or not, we sat down, three adults, and discussed the situation realistically and with complete honesty. We discussed that if we were to have an open relationship and I was to see Sam a couple of nights a week, it would be fake, because there would be only romantic dates, no kids, no stress, no bad days, he would be getting the good, and very little of the bad. When that phone call ended, my mind started racing with more and more questions. It’s been almost a week now, and there’s not a day that has gone by in which I haven’t thought about that night and all the unanswered questions. That’s why I’m posting this thread here. Don't even let yourself entertain the notion of a relationship. For that to even be possible he has to do two things. First, he has to come out to you as either gay or bisexual. Second, he has to leave his girlfriend. For there to be any hope - any hope whatsoever - he has to do both of those things first. The likelihood of him doing even one of those things is next to zero, and if one does happen it is likely that his girlfriend dumps him because he slept with you.

She turns at the edge of the pool and forms the kitty claws once more. "Don't think I won't chop your Johnson off, too. Vince chooses dare. He is doing a dare." Last weekend my straight friend and I decided to invite some people over and have a cookout at his house. Everything went great at first, and we all were having a good time. Eventually everyone left except for me, him, and his girlfriend. His girlfriend went upstairs to bed, and he and I stayed downstairs and continued drinking. We are both partial to whiskey, and man was it going down easy that night. Before long we found ourselves pretty hammered. Go for a walk or a run. This may sound simple at first, but hear me out. You're probably already thinking about this situation on a daily basis, playing the events of that night over and over in your head, and asking yourself the same questions over and over. So why not process these thoughts while doing something physical at the same time. Set aside an hour or so to go walking or running, and tell yourself that you're not going to think about this situation until during your walk or run. Then, instead of wearing headphones and listening to music during your walk/run, use that time to think about your situation; meditate; be alone with just your thoughts; ask the "what if's" and other questions that have been consuming your brain; think about the pros and cons of telling your girlfriend or confronting your friend about the situation; develop a plan for how you can avoid a similar situation in the future.

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Tonya has wandered over to the farther away end of the pool. She searches for something; meanwhile her bare thigh gently taps against the fourth step leading to ground. She finally finds her handbag, toward the left and resting only inches from the pool’s edge. She fumbles with something inside of the purse, most likely a bottle of perfume or some kind of compact.

I'm not in agreement that what she did was right. No it was horribly wrong. And yes, I have come to terms with the fact that she has had sex, although according to her not intercourse but yes sex with another man, but I may be more of a realist than happy clam. More of a ya know, in the now. The mention of visiting a swingers club (where couples swap partners for an evening) had come up a few times, and eventually we decided to take the plunge. We set our rules before we headed in, both extremely nervous, neither knowing what to expect. My wife questions my use of the word gay as being potentially offensive and I’d like to get your take. I’m male and my male friends like to flirt and joke about performing sex acts on each other. We’ve never actually carried through with it but I consider myself on the “spectrum” and might be open to gay sex. My male friends and I say we’re being or acting gay (though we’re all practicing heterosexuals) and this is where my wife takes issue. For example, I might say, “We’re so gay!” in our conversations but the word is used in a positive way. My wife makes the point that the word has a history of being used negatively, so may be considered offensive, and should only be used casually by people who are more legit gay. Should I stop using the word gay this way? —Gay Poser Nothing raunchy. Shhh! I hear you —" Tonya reaches her open hand toward Lauren’s mouth, as if to tamp her lips, but never actually touches her. "Shhh! I hear you. Dare."I probably wouldn’t mention this to your girlfriend. Others will disagree with me on this advice, but I just don’t see how telling her can make the situation any better; it can certainly make the situation worse. She likely will not understand how or why this could’ve happened (just like you are unable to understand how or why it happened). She will have more questions than you’ll have answers for, and your answers may not be to her satisfaction. I really think it’s best to not bring this up to her. I walked in the door, trying to pretend like it was any other day. My husband had beaten me home, and seemed grumpy. I didn’t think much of it until I went into our room and the first thing I noticed was the condom wrapper on the side table. The condom wrapper from Sam and my encounter earlier that morning. I appreciate your comments. And yes, I can't honestly say we wouldn't have gone through with it the first time had she not stepped into this mess while away. So now for me it becomes more of a "well is this just for her afterall???" I don't know. I know she was eternally distraught and disgusted by her actions and vowed to never do that again without me. But I do agree with some of your points. Women of today are not like women of yesteryear, and either is your traditional marriage. For a while it's going to be one day at a time, slogging through, some days better than others. You will have to decide if you can continue living with him and for how long, and under what circumstances, and for those decisions, you have help through a lawyer and a therapist. One way or another you will arrive in a future that was not the future you imagined.

Sam and I took our time, unlike the hurried rush and awkwardness in the club. We kissed and touched, and connected. Too much. We didn’t even end up following through, as I looked up into his eyes, I saw deep inside him, and I suddenly saw something that he too, had been desperately trying to hide, but for a moment, there it was, and I felt my stable world fall apart. Should I text him to say I know something happened that night that shouldn't have happened? And that I've been feeling very confused and stressed about the situation? Or do I just try to pretend it never happened and hope it becomes a distant memory and that when we next see each other we can just laugh it off? It doesn't matter how the story ended. What matters is that it happened. She happened. She changed everything. But taking alone isn't enough. Those discussions must be blatantly honest. He needs to be honest with you and himself about the underlying reasons he is asking so much from you. I can't say her yoga pants, adorable laugh, and kind personality didn't attract me instantly. The thought actually crossed my mind that she might be the most beautiful woman I'd ever met. Not just for her outer appearance - which was beautiful, but flawed like the rest of us - but for her mind and her heart, which she made evidently transparent.The stories in Chaz’s books are based on real-life experiences he has shared with his significant others. Two weeks after the incident she went to get her nipples pierced. I was with her of course, and was turned on by the thought so I said yeah, let's do it.