Check out my YouTube Channel for actionable tips and tools to help you find more ease, joy, and happiness in your life and relationships! It is crucial to include language in the judgment or agreement that explicitly prohibits both parents from engaging in any form of negative talk or disparaging remarks about the other parent. When you’re co-parenting with a toxic ex, harassment can manifest in numerous ways that over time can cause significant damage to your emotional, mental, and physical well-being.

D., a marriage and family therapist and Clinical Director of Ardent Counseling Center explains to Romper.Fine (1955-) grew up in Northern New Jersey trained and has worked as a social worker/psychotherapist for over 30 years. This weekly reminder will keep you on the path to creating connected, happy relationships (especially the one with yourself)! Learning skills to manage the emotions and conflicts that come with these events is the main reason many individuals seek out a professional’s help.

The information on this page is not intended to be a substitution for diagnosis, treatment, or informed professional advice. Your children deserve to have a healthy and loving relationship with both of their parents, regardless of anything that may have happened between you and your ex. It’s not “nice” to give in to things or “mean” to hold your boundaries (despite what your toxic ex says).This preemptive action will minimize disagreements and provide clarity regarding financial obligations.

Clearly the toxic ex does not care how their actions affect the child and one of us has to be the mature adult, I chose me. But with the right tools you can protect your kids and make your relationship with them stronger than ever.By implementing these tips, you can create a supportive and nurturing environment for your children, shielding them from the negative effects of denigration and involvement in disputes. To prevent future disputes, negotiate and clearly outline the responsibilities and expenses related to extracurricular activities in the divorce or settlement agreement. Reach out to loved ones who can understand your situation and provide objective insight and guidance. There might be some acrimonious feelings between you and your ex now, but that doesn’t mean that your kids have to be a part of the tug-of-war. Toxic behaviors generally happen in cycles; once you recognize the patterns which comprise the toxic cycle, you can take steps to minimize negativity and ensure that you’re doing your part as a responsible parent.