Some women identify with the word crone — reclaiming that slur used against old women, and imbuing it with its rightful power. Of course, there are plenty of polyamorous people of all ages and orientations and preferences out there, but you may get better luck in spaces targeting the poly community rather than queer women.

Yes, there are plenty of queer women twenty years older than you who will be attracted to you and delighted to date you. As others have said more eloquently, it feels a bit like your focus here is trying an experience on for size and/or to paper over some emotional element missing from your current relationship. You can change your choices at any time by visiting Cookie preferences, as described in the Cookie notice.Some older lesbians I work with have been out for decades, and have witnessed incredible changes in the landscape of LGBTQ rights, visibility and acceptance. People in hierarchical relationships which include, for example, veto power: if you prioritize your boyfriend over me such that you'd break up with me if he asks you to, I find that disrespectful to me. In the video, Niki and Kelsie, a young lesbian couple who've been together for three years, ask older lesbian couple Robin and Madonna who've been together for 12.

Yet many of those same older lesbians have no trouble seeing the beauty, vitality and, yes, sexiness of the other women in their 60s, 70s and 80s who attend Conscious Girlfriend Academy classes and gatherings. There can be some Catch-22s in there, which may make it easier for you to date other women new to poly and to dating women. On the one hand, if you make it to 80, you’ve undoubtedly faced more deaths in people you love, and more changes in your own physical capacity, than most people have faced at 40. for them, the thrill of dating a 30 yr old is just as likely to be the opportunity to forget how old they are. After one such exercise in the Conscious Girlfriend Academy, a participant exclaimed, “I get it now!If you spent your teen or early adult years having to hide who you were, that fear and constriction still lives in your body somewhere.